Letter Home: Frankfurt, Germany: Don’t worry about the future — it won’t help

Benjamin Gyman is currently on his mission for the Church of Later Day Saints in Frankfurt, Germany.

Benjamin Gyman, Class of 2019

For the past two months or so, I have been in Germany on a religious mission for my church. I’ll be here for about 20 more months, and this is my letter home to you, Bear Creek High School.

I’ve been asked to deposit my “nuggets of wisdom” that I’ve gotten out of high school and beyond, but, to be perfectly honest, there are about two things I know that you don’t and neither one will help you, so instead I’ll tell you all the things I don’t know. Whether that is helpful to you or not is up to you, I suppose.

I should probably start with I have no clue how to be supportive or give advice, so take all of this with a grain of salt.

Something that is on a lot of your minds right now is the future. I don’t know where I’m going to college. I don’t know if I’m going to stick with the major I want or if I’ll even be able to get a job with the major I end up with. I roughly know what is going to happen within the next 20 months, but after that, who knows? So, to sum it all up, I have no idea what the future holds.

Strangely though, that’s okay. I’m sure that I’m not the only one who has spent basically all of junior and senior year agonizing and worrying about the future. Now that I have begun the future that I was worried about, though, I’m finding out that that was a lot of wasted energy. Of course, my life right now is a bit untraditional, but I don’t think college is much of a different challenge. The future happens whether you worry or not. Sure, you should be concerned but not stressed out. There is simply no reason.

Probably not something you have to deal with now but coming up fast is just surviving on your own. Half the time I have no idea what’s going on (and not just because everyone’s speaking German). From what I figure, that’s pretty par for the course. Most people are in the same boat as I, and, soon you’ll be in here too. Just be confident and it’ll probably work out, except illegal stuff. Don’t do anything illegal. Just make good choices. I know that’s obvious, but I did say I was bad at giving advice didn’t I?

Now, what’s a good piece of advice I can give? Now is the part of our lives that will determine the rest of it. The next 10 years will influence the next 80. Make good choices now. Commit yourself to good habits now. Choose to be a better person. That sounds cheesy. Oh well.

I’ll end with the words of Elbert Hubbard: “It may not be out of place to say that every man is controlled by Habit. When Habits are young they are like lion cubs, easily managed, but later there comes a time when they manage you. Bad Habits may put you on the Avernus Jerkwater, No. 23, with a one way to Nowhere. Good Habits are mentors, guardian angels, and servants that regulate your sleep, your work, your thought.” I think the Avernus Jerkwater is a train or boat that goes into a volcano so probably not good.

Oh, one last thing; above all, have fun with it. Life sucks if you don’t.